An Opposing View?

I see a lot of folks on here maintain they aren't shallow because they are dumping their spouse for getting fat.  I would like to see these same people make moral judgments on my situation.

I'm a thinling female who is also a life long FA.  

I married the fat ass of my dreams: 5'10 and 270 lbs - most of which sits in his Buddha belly, rubbing that round mass of hairy flab turns me on beyond belief.  When he's banging me from the top and I'm squished under his warm sweaty moobs, swallowing up and sticking to my tiny frame - ahhhh, it's the best feeling ever!

The doctor diagnosed my manly beast last year with high cholesterol and heart disease right around the corner.  He said he has to lose weight pronto - I was mortified!  I'm a feeder, you thinlings may not realize what this means:  no more of my buttery steaks and roasted ribs may I hand feed my gluttonous fatling.  :(   I can never again know the exquisite joy of watching my ham fisted man swallow down heaping hunks of my love meals.  I will never again be able to lay my head on his massive belly and listen to it extending and digesting!  For a feeder FA like me it's like being told you can't have an orgasm anymore!

My man has been eating tuna fish & lettuce like a good little patient, he has went down to 210 pounds......   The horror!  His head looks too big for his body now, his face is getting more wrinkled because there is little fat to fill his skin.  His hands have lost those meaty dimples which used to turn me on.... I'm stuck trying to get sexually attracted to a friggin' waif, it makes me feel like a lesbian to have a partner so skinny, TOTAL TURN OFF!

According to the logistics of this site, I'm supposed to leave my hubby because he doesn't do it for me anymore.....  And I'm not "shallow" for that, because everyone has a right to be sexually attracted to their mate, right???

But I doubt highly that's the advice you thinlings would be giving this FA. Instead, I'm sure I will hear how I'm supposed to just change my attractions to fit what the doctor says is healthy for my hubby.  As if I CAN change my attractions any more than you folks can....

The hypocrisy here has me rather miffed....

But I won't sweat it long, because I won't leave my SO.  He may not be able to be the fatling of my dreams anymore, but I promised to love him for life, no matter what came.  I intend on sticking to that promise.  If I have to I'll just flirt with the occasional BHM I meet to fill my kicks, perhaps try to invite over some friends I can push food on to get my secret kicks, I'll scan the net for some feeder porn, close my eyes when I give it to the hubby and try to remember what it was like when he was heavier, I'll learn to deal with it.  Because I am not about to destroy his heart of the hearts of my children just so I can get nailed my physical ideal.  The vow of my brain & heart meant more than the desires of my vagina....

posted by Charlotte 
on Matilda Tuesday's My Fat Spouse Forum

Fattitude - fat·ti·tude [fat-i-tood, -tyood]

In a recent post I listed a few items as examples of what I consider to be 'fatitude'.  Below is my attempt to take it a step further and begin to categorically define the term originally coined by M2.  

Did I get it right? Please post your corrections, additions, deletions, etc.

Fattitude - fat·ti·tude [fat-i-tood, -tyood]

A collection of highly irrational, and often contradictory attitudes, beliefs and expectations about fatness/obesity, its causes and cures, and its role in relationships and society. The degree to which someone agrees with any or all of the following is their level of fattitude:

Examples:

* Believing that becoming obese is a natural, unavoidable and irreversible result of the aging process, exactly the same as getting wrinkles or losing hair. Anyone who manages to avoid this has exceedingly rare genetics and must be a "fitness nut" who lives a very extreme, miserable lifestyle where they are virtual slaves to maintaining their unnatural bodies.

* Believing that obesity is caused by mysterious medical conditions, stress, mean spouses, and a hundred other things that the individual cannot control, but NEVER by laziness or overeating.

* Believing that losing weight through sensible eating and exercise is virtually impossible (see previous).

* No one (spouse, child, parent, sibling, etc) should ever expect or encourage another person to lose weight for any reason whatsoever, whether it be health/longivity, quality of life, attractiveness, etc.

* Believing that it is normal and perfectly acceptable to remain or become fit for the purpose of attracting a spouse, then once you are married, letting yourself go and gaining 50+ pounds. Marriage is a binding contract that requires your spouse to find you attractive no matter how much you let yourself go. If they protest, they should be labeled shallow, immature and narcissistic. Some people may consider this an unethical "bait and switch" but they are just haters and fatists (see below).

* Calling fat rolls and cellulite "curves" and referring to obese females as "real women"

* Having an entitled mentality that fat people should be treated as a protected class.

* Referring to fat people as 'normal' and healthy/fit people as 'thin' or 'skinny'.

* Insisting that regarding fat people as unattractive and/or undeserving of special protection is somehow comparable to racism or homophobia (hence the term 'fatist').

* Insisting that "it's all Hollywood's fault" that most people find a fit healthy body attractive and blubber unattractive. Obese is normal, fit is not.

* Inexplicably claiming that you can somehow be both fat and healthy/fit at the same time.

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