I'm so glad I found this site. I have been married 10+ years, and my husband has gained about 100 pounds since we met. We were both college athletes, but he now has a huge belly and big fat "pouch" where there shouldn't be one, and he's so out of shape that we really can't have sex at all anymore unless he just lies still and I do it all. Looking at him getting out of the shower today, I realized that I have just become totally repulsed. Then tonight he complained that he doesn't get any sex anymore. It's true: sex with him is terrible, and I no longer desire sex with him. Like other posters here, I am very disappointed that our once active lifestyle has become just a series of meals to him. Even on vacation, his primary concern is always when are where are we next going to eat, and he likes to order what amounts to two meals for himself. I see other happy couples who do things like exercise together, and it really makes me sad. Honestly, he doesn't even have energy to play in the yard with our kids. I play with them myself and I end up nagging him to go play with them since he's much more skilled at games like catch, but he acts like it's some massive chore and he only lasts out there a couple of minutes. Hey! That sounds a bit like our former sex life (we have no current sex life.) If I didn't have school-aged children, I'd be gone. I don't see him really making an effort to be healthier, and it's all very upsetting. I'm trying to make it until the children are out of the house, telling myself that I can be free then, but I'm not sure I will make it. I do love him, but his obsession with food has taken its toll.